The Ultimate Legacy
I am the very proud mother of two amazing women. Much of their lives it was just the three of us, as their dad and I went our separate ways when they were still very young.
As I was facing the initial surgery, it became very important to let them know how proud I was of them. I had complete faith in the doctors, but stuff happens. The surgery I was scheduled for was considered ‘routine’ brain surgery. Hmm. Not sure routine and brain surgery go in the same sentence, especially when discussing my brain. But I digress…
The surgery was schedule for January and my younger daughter was getting married in March. The doctor fully expected I would dance at her wedding. And dance I did. The ceremony was spectacular – held at two bed & breakfasts in Banff Canada. It was a small, intimate affair with friends and family. They had written their own vows leaving everyone simultaneously laughing and crying. The music, the food, the atmosphere were all perfect.
Most of the sharing and planning was done virtually as she lives in Germany. The one piece we did get together for was wedding dress shopping! Her sister and I flew to London where the three of us spent the weekend trying on dresses and bonding. She looked absolutely stunning in her gown.
The following December we all gathered midmonth to celebrate Christmas at her sister’s house near Detroit and she shared even more exciting news. She was pregnant – due in August. This would be the tenth grandbaby but my first biological. I love all the step grandchildren but there is something exhilarating about your baby having a baby. Most of our sharing is via electronic media. It certainly helps narrow the distance.
Come Christmas Day my older daughter called with her own surprise. Her boyfriend and his children had proposed. The coming year would see a new baby and a wedding. Again because of distance most of the sharing and planning were electronic.
The baby came in August without complication. A beautiful baby girl that I shall always be honored to have as my namesake.
The wedding in October was on the beach in Hilton Head (a favorite place of mine). Even the cancer diagnosis a few days before the wedding couldn’t put a damper on things. The wedding was beautiful down to every last detail.
As a mother I could not be more proud of these two women. They are power houses in their professions, incredible mothers, and understand the importance of communication in a relationship. Thus, they are most certainly my ultimate legacy.
Dr Bea
